Saying Goodbye Is The Hardest Thing To Do

A friend shared to me her heartaches and frustrations about her boyfriend early this morning after they both agreed to a cool-off.

Love is intricate and the phase before the end of every relationship appears to be the most arduous for the mind and the heart.

Irregardless of the circumstances behind, someone at the PRE-DEPARTURE area ( my description of the "cool off" phase ) either has:

a. Her heart wanting her to stay but her mind instructing her to let go, OR ...
b. Her mind telling her to hold on but her heart wants to move on.

Sometimes we prefer to stay at the pre-departure area, grumbling and complaining, afraid to make the decision to either depart or cancel the "flight". 

Nobody wants to face the consequences of a  "bad" decision which, in the context of relationships, means losing the person perfect for you while you were clueless!

After ventilating out her grievances, my friend told me, " I am so tired doc! I'd rather be a spinster! "

" Being a spinster is a calling, " I countered.  " Even if you want to be one, if you are not meant to be one, then you will never be one! "

" Spinsterhood is not just for anybody.  It is only for the woman set aside by God as his own chick.", I said. 

And it is my privilege to be one of the chosen few.

If you are now at the "pre-departure" area of  your relationship, always include God in your decision making.

He knows best to whom He wants to share you with and if He does not, be proud. Of all women and men, you are the one He wants to keep... for himself and that deserves a big smile. : )